10 Amazing Things Authentic Queen (ok king too ;-)) Are Doing

In a past existence, I seem to have been a shape-shifter. I constantly changed my hues to mix in with the surroundings. I'd lost track of whom the "true me" was. For far too long, I did what I felt everyone else wanted or needed me to do. I had forgotten what I truly wanted. By pandering to others, I had gradually eroded my individuality to the point that I was recognizable.

Pretty quickly, I craved the return of my natural hues. Don't get me wrong: it was a great deal of fun experimenting with various shades. I tried on gorgeous magenta, orange, gold, coral, and periwinkle hues, but none of them felt quite right. None of them resembled me in any way. Here are some things we could do to be so much more genuine:

1. We make no apologies for who we are or what we enjoy.

We love what we adore and who we respect. We make no apologies for whom we really are. For the most part, that's the individual we were born to be. When we apologize for who we are and what we enjoy, we tell ourselves that we are not enough because we ought to be healed. I often spent hours apologizing for who I was because I felt like I was a nuisance to others. Today, I realized that I don't need to apologize for having depression and anxiety, just as someone who has a disease doesn't need to apologize for their sickness. What I've realized is that I am precisely who I am, and it's fantastic at times, crazy at times, and frequently both.

2. We indulge in our curiosities.

We are curious about things we are told. We are curious about what we hear and see. We don't need to accept anything as the "one and only truth." I used to let what other people said affect me a lot. I would even let other people's opinions dictate my sense of self-worth. I laugh at this now because I realize that there is no "one and only truth," and very often, what people say is more about them than it actually is about you. We stay curious about others and about ourselves.

3. We regularly ask ourselves what our motivations are

This is something I have to do daily. My ego may take on a million different forms, and if I don't calm down and attempt to understand what drives me, it can take over the stage. I have a reputation for being a people-pleaser. I've always wanted everybody to admire me and think of me as a "strong woman." To maintain the impression I presented to others, I used to do or say things that I felt they would appreciate or just want to hear. Authentic individuals ask themselves, "Is our motive genuine to who we are?" Is it governed by a requirement for approval? We are continually assessing our intentions.

4. We listen to our instincts.

There's a reason why something seems off. I've disregarded my gut instincts several times and afterward regretted it. In particular, I have neglected my gut impulses in previous relationships. I had a feeling something wasn't right, but I disregarded it until it became too much to bear. If something doesn't feel quite right, there's a good chance it's true. Our brains are clever, and they can detect when something is unsuitable for us. We give attention to our instincts and believe that they are correct.

5. We spend quality time with ourselves.

To return to my actual colors, I needed to spend some time alone, since I needed to avoid collecting other people's emotions for a while. I require time alone regularly to process my feelings and ideas. It is virtually impossible to know our own views when other people continuously surround us. We set aside time for ourselves. We are meditating. We go for walks in the woods by ourselves. We learn about ourselves on our own.

6. We express ourselves and are acknowledged.

It's excruciating to have to hold back what we want to express all the time. We should be able to speak our truths and be heard. This is not to say that we should constantly talk about our reality, but having a place to connect freely and openly is essential to being our actual, genuine selves. Maybe it's a diary, or it may be a close buddy, or it could be a support network. Blogging, peer support, coffee outings with pals, and counseling are all things I like!

7. We surround ourselves with people who accept us.

It is tough to be your authentic self when people around you don't accept that version of you. I remember a time in my life when I discovered something new about myself and chose to change my way of life. Some people judged me for this; they didn't accept it. I had to find people who did get me. We surround ourselves with people who buy and respect our true colors, most of the time. We let go of judgmental and disrespectful people who we are.

8. We acquire knowledge

We are not built to absorb information in its entirety, but we do it all the time. Genuine individuals make information theirs. We do not take in all that surrounds us. We wonder, "What does this imply for us?" Why is it significant to us? These are the factors that make the information meaningful to us. These are essential things.

9. We understand that it is OK to disappoint others sometimes

We are human, which means we are prone to making mistakes. We will keep making errors and disappointing folks occasionally. Being honest implies that we are good at setting limits with others, tho it feels like a disappointment. People we want around us will accept our limitations and ideas in any case.

10. We know and accept ourselves.

Recognizing our true colors for what they are is the key to being faithful to them. Each of us is a lovely, untidy, and beloved creature. At times, we are the most gorgeous hues in the spectrum, and at others, we are various shades of drab and black. Appreciating the whole range of ourselves and the people around us is our most difficult challenge. It's a voyage that will take a lifetime to complete; it's not something that can be accomplished immediately. But one thing I am sure of is that it is entirely worthwhile.